Ramps aren't just for skater kids anymore. Another innovation from the Liberator, the Flip ramp is the exact tool you need in order to spice up your sex life.
My girlfriend and I purchased this sexy piece of furniture to add something different to our play time. After doing some rigorous testing myself over the last couple of weeks I must say this is a “must-have” piece for the bedroom. 

No matter what adventures you and your partner may be having in the bedroom the Flip ramp will suit all of your needs. It can be used in two shapes: it unfolds to a ramp for mind blowing adventures but can also act like an innocent piece of furniture that fits into any decor - your guests will never know what secrets this Pandora’s Box contains!

The sloping ramp shape makes traditional sex positions like “missionary” and “doggy style” more comfortable and a position like “girl on top” more adventurous. The ergonomic shape of the ramp contours perfectly to a woman's body.  It gave me that perfect angle to penetrate my woman from behind, not to mention an incredible view of her assets! And she didn’t have to strain her legs so much as without the ramp; she just lean forward on it and hold on for dear life! And when it came time for her to get on top, the angling gave us both an opportunity to be even closer physically and easier for her to achieve an orgasm.

The Flip ramp is also very handy for lovers of oral. When she lay back, the ramp provides the ideal incline for me to please her for as long as we both desire. No more sore neck! And for us men, the visual creatures that we are, once again - amazing view.

The square shape is cool too, and is great for unique sex positions. Ironically it doubles as a standard ottoman for regular everyday use. When being stored there is no need to worry about children or guests finding it peculiar because it looks like a part of your home decor. It’s compact in size so not having a lot of space is not an issue.

Finally, you will never have to worry about clean up. As with all Liberator ramps, the Flip ramp comes with machine washable covers for those sticky instances and unforgettable moments. Beneath the velvish luxurious covers is a soft polyester water-resistant liner, so no matter how wild your sex life is, this prop is sure to last a long time.

The Flip ramp is  product that will surely enhance your sex life whether things have gotten mundane in your current sex life or you just want to experiment. You will reach angles and zones you have never been able to reach before. Your partner will cherish you for caring so much as to add this to your repertoire. The Flip ramp is available at http://www.thevelvetlily.com/products/liberator-flip-ramp  and it comes is 6 great colors: Aubergine, Black, Buckwheat, Espresso, Grey and Merlot (pictured here).

$160 is a small investment into your sex life; but the looks you’ll shoot to each other across the room at your anniversary party will be priceless!

The We Vibe is the fastest selling sex toys and have had over a million people use it.  It's unique C shape design allows a variety ways of incorporating it into your sex life.  The most promoted version of using the We Vibe is to wear it with your partner, mainly but not limited to heterosexual partners.  The smaller end of the C shaped dual head vibrator is inserted into the vagina while the larger end rests against the clitoris.  The shaft of the penis is inserted at the same time so the couple enjoys vibration at the same time. Or for some game time, slip a pair of panties and go out to dinner with a remote control. 

The We Vibe 3 is 40% more powerful than the We Vibe 2 and 8 variations in pulsations.  The best upgrade is the remote so that you can switch intensity and patterns easily.  The problem I had with the We Vibe 2, is that I would have to reach down and fumble for the button during sex.  The We Vibe 3 is completely waterproof where as the '2' is water resistant.  We Vibe 2 offers 9 vibration modes and the 3 offers 6.  To charge, simply place on the dock and the battery should last about 3 hours.

Our staff has found ways to use the We Vibe than just through intercourse.  Another way is to place the penis in between the the two vibrating heads to add some variation and vibration to giving head.  You can also wrap it around the testicles during oral.   For other ways to please her, turn one end and let it rest on top (not inside) the anus while performing oral on her.  If you are looking for a more playful option, slip on a pair of panties while using the We Vibe 3 on her and give your partner the remote control, and go out to dinner or cocktail party. 

For more ways on how to use the We Vibe, come into our store and one of our representatives will guide you through on practical hot ways to get the most out of your We Vibe 3.

A couple of ladies came in the store and they were doing a girls night.  One had 5 children and the other had 2.  They did some wandering and decided to settle on Pheremone scents and oils.  At check out we talked about their sex lives and their husband's habits they fell in love with and now can't stand.

The younger lady used to love morning sex but after 2 kids and 10 years of marriage, she can't stand it.  And she used to think her husband's morning habit of nudging her head with his penis was cute.  He thinks it's funny to basically tea bag her in the morning.  I thought it was funny too but I didn't let her know that.  Urges of rage and violence course through her body.  The older of the two, lets say late 40's says she gets a nudge and she usually goes to sleep at 2 am and the penis nudge on her bumm occurs at 4 am.  She doesn't resist as much and just goes with the flow disinterested.  Perhaps a little more creativity in communicating is in order.  Changing up the initial routine is in order.

I am fortunate enough with my second husband of 12 years to not experience that but I can admit that some of the habits he has that I once thought were hot, now annoy the shit out of me.  For example, his eating habits.  He loves to pick up his food with his hands when it isn't finger food.  I used to think it was shocking and then sexually savage.  Now I just want to stab him with my fork.  Of course his response is that it is how he eats me out.  There is usually food under the side of his lip and I can't believe he eats like a cave man.   What's worse is that my son is learning these habits.  Growing up in a jewish household where my grandparents hocked me a chinik (translation - nagged me to death) about how to hold my silverware, and basically all table manners, I am now doing the same thing to my child.

So I decided to have an experiment and truly observe his oral skills and compare them to his eating skills and found that he did in fact, perform cunnilingus with the same enthusiasm as he eats his food.  For instance he doesn't really take a break or breath.  Secondly, it's like he is eating the best tasting watermelon ever.  He has no problem getting down and dirty.  It's like he is devouring me.  And I think to myself, "It's not such a bad thing after all."

Many women come into the shop and have had repeatedly reported to their doctor that they have developed a pattern of repetitive yeast or urinary tract infections.  Unfortunately many doctors do not ask their patients what kind of lubes or what their sex toys are made of and just prescribe antibiotics avoiding any uncomfortable conversations.  Although I haven't had a yeast infection or UTI's (Urinary Tract Infections) recently, I do enjoy making my OBGYN blush when I talk about my business.   

The main ingredient in lubricants that causes infections is Glycerin.  Glycerin is a sweet tasting, colorless thick liquid often added to many lubricants, bath products, cosmetics, and even food.  When women are prone to yeast infections, their PH is unbalanced or disrupted and and overgrowth of yeast builds up.  Reportedly, 75% of women will get at least one yeast infection in their lives.

Mostly water based and flavored lubricants have Glycerin.  The number one selling lubricant brand, KY Jelly is full of it but not all women are prone to getting yeast infections.  Silicone lubricants usually do not carry Glycerin and usually Glycerin is added to lubricants is to mask any bitter tastes.  A popular brand of flavored lubricants, Sliquid Naturals, does not contain Glycerin and is a favorite for our customers.  Other lines of Glycerin free lubes that we like is Pink or Pjur.  

We suggest that you talk to your doctor about your concerns and the more they become comfortable about these "sexual health" issues, the better for all their patients.

As sex and sex toys have become less tabu and more mainstream, the Fifty Shades trilogy has hit the market like a firestorm.  I had to read the trilogy in 3 days to make sure we had enough inventory for requests that we never had before.  For instance, a customer from Texas paid $90 for us to fedex a pair of silver ben wa balls for his wife.  And regardless of what people think about how well written the series is, the appeal for sexual fantasy is in high demand.  How can you not be enthralled in two hot young people who are privilaged and act out some role play bondage and hot sex. And all of us have desires that we keep a secret because we aren't sure how well they will be received by our lovers. Take a hint and get with the program about what women really want:

1.  Many of us like to be dominated.  Sometimes we wish that our lover will take control of us in the bedroom - to act out the part as a submissive partner - to have our sex lives brought to the edge but not suffer any real negative impact.  Fifty Shades takes us there and yet keeps in line with the old fashioned romance novels where the main character loses her virginity to the most eligible bachelor who can screw you silly and actually has a brain. 

2.  We are curious about what is sexually tabu.  To the mainstream population, a little spanking as maybe fun as long as there are no bruises or a little tugging the hair given that bald spots are not a consequence.  I was brought up old school, so spankings aren't so appealing but a little tiny crop isn't such a bad thing.  I know that in American Society, spankings as a form of child rearing is not encouraged so some of my girlfriends have never experienced painful discipline.

3.  We like a challenge and to have what we can't get.  Being teased to the edge of crazy desire is very appealing to both men and women.  Your senses are heightened and you become ravenous and starve for satisfaction.  Being tied up is one way to accomplish a heightened sense of desire and need. 

4.  We want to be the best piece of ass.  We might act shy about our sexuality but truth be told, we want to fuck like a rock star but want to make sure our lovers don't think we have been around the block or had too much experience.  Yes, we want to win!!!  And if we could feel confident in our sexuality and own it, that would great too.  Anastasia is apparently a pro with very little experience.  It took me 20 years to really own my sexuality - to think but not say that I am a great piece of ass.  I know that as I got older and felt more comfortable with my body, I became more curious about sex toys, role play, and bondage.  I don't recall ever being interested in this part of my sexuality at 20 years old.  And I never trusted any of my partners to tie me up either until meeting my current husband who doesn't even want to do that.  I think a lot of women, even today, have a hard time trusting someone to tie them up and give them a spanking that won't hurt that much.

6.  We all want to be successful.  Finding Mr. Wonderful is a daunting task and usually when we find him we want to fix him. We want to be the heroin and to make a difference to others and is needed too.  The one who marries the great young rich guy (who loves you), has kids and doesn't get fat, AND runs a huge corporation or something to that affect.  The idea appeals to us even if we doubt our abilities to have everything that we want. 

7.  We all want to be loved.  No matter how much we get burned and the high divorce rate, we are still looking for the one.  The one who makes us sweat or gives us the butterflies.  And we all want the happy ending.  As we get older, some of us settle but in Fifty Shades there is no settling.

If this book was about some 40 something year old woman who has been around the block a few times and not some 20 year old virgin with tight baby skin, this trilogy would not be as popular.  Us 40 something women remember when we were 18 and didn't have stretch marks from child birth or peeing in our pants while sneezing.  Ahh those were the days when life was carefree and we didn't have mortgage payments for private school for the kids. 

A word of caution, this book is fiction and proper consultation is a good idea when trying something new.  There is a difference in Fiction, Fantasy, and reality.  In some situations, the phrase, "It doesn't hurt to try it" may not apply.  

Yesterday morning I had the rare opportunity to sleep in an hour longer than usual.  Unfortunately, my partner was already gone for work and my natural alarm clock still woke me up early.  What to do,  what to do? I tried to go back to sleep and knew that if I just  had an orgasm, I may just be able to do that.  

Digging into my toy box, I pulled out a newer vibrator from Vibratex, The Sugar Pop.  We call it the Rocket Launcher II because it is the newer better version of their Butterfly which we called the Rocket Launcher.  I rarely use battery operated toys nowadays but it's hard to find a dual action rechargeable toy with a soft clitoral stimulator.  The clitoral vibrator on this toy is quite unique.  Your clitoris has no room to escape because there are wings on the side, antennas on top, and nubbies right in the middle.  

Where the beads are on the Rocket Launcher aka Butterfly, there are rings with protuding half circles instead that move in circular motions under the soft elastomer skin.  The original Rocket Launcher lights up and is great when you want to provide a disco scene in between your thighs.  My recommendation is to insert the shaft first before turning on the vibrator.  It is quite annoying to put a moving head that turns in circles into the vagina.  With this vibrator, the clitoral and shaft portion can be turned on separately.  What's also interesting is that the shaft portion not only has low and high intensities but the clitoral portion has that as well as different pulsation patterns.  Hmmm.  How cool is that?

For those of you who just need a quick fix, this guy is definitely a go to option.

So I read the fist, oops, first of the series in less than two days.  It's an easy read and I thoroughly enjoyed it but I have one piece of constructive criticism, "Don't put any sugary substances in your cooch, no matter how kinky or fun you might think it might be."  Being tied up definitely has some excitement to it and I have figured out that I am definitely not the submissive in any of my relationships.  I like being on top, literally.  But I do like a partner that knows how to please and isn't a wimp in bed.  Let's take turns with control.  

This past week end, I had some husbands and boyfriends come in who were sent by their wives/significant others and they said something to the effect of, "I don't know why my wife is sending me here for this but I need the following:"

A blindfold

A silver bullet 

Uh... a spreader bar 

Silver Ben Wa Balls

Restraints like a Tie 

In Fifty Shades of grey, they do mention safe words.  Safe words are a good practice and perhaps the first step is to use these words in some light bondage instead of going full force into it.  Bondage can be exciting but trust definitely is an issue.  On my first Valentine's Day with my husband, I tried out some light bondage and it was a hot experience.  I even decided to video tape the event.  

It was great for me.  I teased him with feathers and honey dust, licking away the dust from his belly.  I straddled his face and he tried to reach out for me but he couldn't.  Unfortunately the ties were too tight around his wrists and he complained so I had to loosen them.  Finally he wanted the blindfold off and I sucummed to his wishes.  And when he finally had his orgasm, he did a double take toward the video camera which he just noticed and whispered,  "Are you video taping us?" and I giggled.  

When we watched the video afterwards, it was quite funny.  'Happy Valentines Day' blocked most of the porn and my head was conveniently turned away from the camera.  His expression of seeing the camera was the best part of the video and I was happy my first light bondage porn was both hot and amusing.  Once in a while I pull it out when I am having some "ME" time and watch it, reliving the scrumptious experience.

Have you ever threatened to not give it up because your partner pissed you off?  Sound familiar?  Are you punishing them or are you punishing yourself?  Does holding out really make a difference or teach them a lesson?  In my opinion it just prolongs the tension and why not get rid of your tension emotionally and physically?  If you aren't in the mood, that is one thing, but if it's just to get back at them is a whole other thing. 

A good exercise is to look at your partner while he or she isn't looking.  Check out the goods, the legs, the ass, the chest, and the neck.  You know your lover is hot.  You know he/she can turn you on in all the right places so go for it.  Make up sex can be super hot... aggressive, emotional, intense. 

Orgasms release endorphins and have a similar chemical structure to morphine which relieve pain and stress.  Similar to the experieince of a "runner's high," the release of endorphins can also treat depression.  Have you ever been depressed right after an orgasm?  I don't think I have ever felt better than after an orgasm or two or three.  After you come down from the orgasm, don't let the voices in your head tell you that what you experienced was wrong and bad.  Enjoy the natural high and appreciate that you can experience it.

For those of you that are out there to make each other wrong, my husband and I created a distinction which has helped us make up faster.  There is no right or wrong, only right and righter, and wrong and wronger.  That way you aren't on opposite sides of the table.  Make up faster and get it on.  Life is just too short.

A hot topic at our last Getting Him Off workshop was penis shapes.  One of the attendees, who is recently divorced, has been encountering men with curved shaped penis'.  For some reason she has been attracting only men whose penis happen to curve (to the left and to the right).  Whereas many women I've talked to prefer the curved penis for better G Spot locating; for this woman, the curves just don't work for her.  So here is the question: does a woman look for a man with a specific shape and forgo other deciding factors, such as personality?  Or does she make the adjustment and find more creative positioning?  I can think of other things to complain about than penis shape.  Below is a list of steps to take to accommodate the curves.

1.  Locate your G Spot.  Yes, every woman has one, but don't get discouraged if you haven't had an orgasm from one yet.  Statistically 70% of women don't have orgasms without clitoral stimulation.  Although a patron at the coffee shop sitting next to me says she can have an orgasm in her sleep.  Lucky her.  I choose to congratulate her and move on and address the rest of the population who aren't as lucky.  Finding your G Spot can be challenging because it isn't in the same place for everyone.  If you imagine that your mouth is your vagina, take your thumb and insert it about an inch in and touch the roof of your mouth.  The g spot is about an inch inside your vagina and towards the front of your pelvis, however, it might not be centered.  For me, I get the most pleasure a little towards the right.  

You can explore your vagina with something that is curved, such as a G Spot toy like the ones listed below. This will help you with the next step.

Bcute curve

SlimLine G

Gigi

Leaf by Swan: Bloom

2.  Try and find where you get pleasure deeper in your vagina.  The back of the vagina responds more to pressure or fullness.  And there are other items that are more specific to that smaller G Spotter that might do a better job.  For deep vaginal stimulation, I recommend a more bulbous or longer shape, like Lelo Mona or the Fun Factory Tiger.  I have experimented with shapes, and I also prefer a curved shape, whether it's on a human being, dildo, or vibrator.  Manipulate the vibrator to see which deep angle your dildo or vibrator your body responds to best.  

3.  Once you have an idea as to where your G Spot is and what pleases your vag the most, it's time to experiment with a human being.  The best way to get to the position you want is to get on top.  So if your man has a penis that curves to the right and you prefer stimulation to your right, try the reverse cowboy position.  Then move on to other positions where you aren't on top.  If you need some help, get a book or 52 Sex Position cards to jump start your brain.  

Sometimes we get lucky and find the man who has the right shape and size, but sometimes the personality just doesn't fit.  Flexibility, communication, and adaptability are great skills in the bedroom and in life.  Life is too short to waste time not having good sex.

My motto is... If you are going to do it, might as well do it the right way.  When women come to our Blow Him Away workshops, most want to improve their skills or just don't feel like giving a hand job or a blow job.  Some feedback I have had is, "I am really horrible at it," "I want to master this," or a personal favorite, "When I leave here today, I want to be able to suck the enamel off a door knob,"  What's important is to figure out (quickly) why you want to perform these acts of pleasure.  Is it because you feel obligated?  Or is it because you think you might as well just get it over with?  I look at these opportunities to connect to my partner, physically and mentally.  I also know that the more I give, the more I get but not in the sense of payback, but more along the lines of karma or good energy.  Your generosity is going to be recognized and if it isn't, then there are some other issues to deal with.

Get in the mood.  Don't just look at the penis and think, "Ho hum, here we go again."  Smell your partner.  Does he smell like musk?  This is a natural pheromone that has the potential to drive you crazy.  A common scent is salt.  I have the privilege of smelling bagels - like fresh baked bagels.

Establish what you want to do or are willing to do.  Swallowing for instance.  If you don't want to swallow, then don't.  As an alternative, let him cum on your chest and see if that turns him on.  And if you don't mind swallowing but don't like the taste, try some  flavored body safe lubes, like, for example, the Sliquid brand.  

Another hot topic is the Deep Throat. I always like a good challenge and I continue to improve my skills in this area, to the point where now I hardly ever gag.  With the assistance of good advice from my sex educators, there are certain angles that have definitely helped.  Men are very visual creatures and some have been educated by the porn industry that Deep Throat is the best way to give head.  In my experience, a combination of hands and mouth work best. 

Which brings me to hands. Does everyone remember the Indian Burn?  My sex educator Kira brought this up at our workshop this Sunday and I was happy that I already used that technique.  Mind you, lube is essential for the Indian Burn unless he likes a little pain and rawness.  I haven't labeled all the techniques that I have used and someday I might have to.  But lube or saliva is essential in pretty much all of them.  If you want to add something a little different, try Stroke 29 Masturbating cream.  It's a lube not meant for intercourse and only meant for masturbation so be careful to clean it all off if you plan to have sex.  Stroke 29 is a cream that turns into a slick oily substance after about 50 strokes designed to stimulate how a vagina lubricates after being stimulated.  

Great places to focus on for the male genitalia:  the corona (under the tip of the penis), the frenulum (under the tip and on the underside), and the perineum (under the testicles).  Massage these areas like you want to drive him crazy, but please, not like you are squeezing toothpaste out of its container.  Licking motions should be like you are eating the best ice cream cone ever, not like your tongue is stuck to a freezing ice sculpture. 

Try some vibration.  I love to use palm held vibrators that have flat surfaces to massage the shaft, the perineum, and the inner thighs.  Vibrator that can fit in your palm while following your mouth or while one hand has the vibrator, use the other hand for massage.   The Lelo Nea, the Jimmy Jane Form 3, and the Leaf by Swan Spirit Vibe are fantastic solutions.  If you are looking for something that serves as an internal stimulator, use the Gigi.  The flat side can be used for the shaft and the perenium.

And finally, practice makes perfect.  My husband always says that I am doing something new, but I seriously doubt it after 11 years.  Once in a while I will pull something out of my back pocket or re do something I did a few months ago to change it up.  Don't think too much about it.  Be with it and make it fun, hot, and sexy.